With guest, Farahana Surya Namaskar, Author, Mindfulness Coach and Divorce Counselor
I am delighted to have a very special guest on today’s show. The topic is not a pleasant one, but, it is a pervasive one in our society today.
Miranda Lambert in her recent song, which won song of the year on the American Country Music Awards show, sang of the Tin Man from the Wizard of Oz, who wanted a new heart to “be in love again:
Hey there, Mr. Tin Man
You don’t know how lucky you are
I’ve been on the road that you’re on
It didn’t get me very far
You ain’t missing nothing
‘Cause love is so damn hard
Take it from me, darling
You don’t want a heart
Hey there, Mr. Tin Man
I’m glad we talked this out
You can take mine if you want it
It’s in pieces now
By the way there, Mr. Tin Man
If you don’t mind the scars
You give me your armor
And you can have my heart
My guest is Farahana Surya Namaskar, and she deals with the topic of love, heartbreak and all the personal trauma that goes with that. She has dealt with in her personal life and helps others deal with it. This is not an easy issue for someone to talk about, especially when it deals with their own life and the emotional wounds are still fresh and somewhat raw. For that reason, I am especially indebted to Farahana for agreeing to be on today’s show.
To illustrate the breadth and depth of the divorce rate in America:
–According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 1 of every two marriages end in divorce
–For those who divorce, the average marriage lasts about 8 years
–The divorce rate in America is third in the world following only Belarus and the Maldives
–Interestingly, even more second marriages end in divorce, up to approximately 65%
In this episode you will learn:
-The range of issues, both emotional and legal that the average person has to deal with in going through a divorce
-How well the sentiments expressed in Miranda Lambert’s song resonate as ones that are fairly typical with someone going through a divorce?
-Whether it so traumatic that some give up on love and ever getting married again?
-“Love is a fever cured quickly by marriage”, as the adage goes. The divorce rate would suggest that it’s important to consider other factors such as compatibility?, personality match?, can I be a good friend with this person?
-About the custody relationship and how parts work to ensure that the emotional damage to the child is limited?
-About a service being provided to law firms and representing clients in divorce cases?
-How men seem to have a much harder time dealing with divorce than women. A study published in the BMJ Journal, says that divorced men are eight times more likely to commit suicide than divorced men. Anecdotally, the number of times that a divorced husband commits a murder/suicide dwarfs the times you hear of the woman being the perpetrator.